Weak villains make for weak plots … it’s important to give your hero a worthy opponent … In order to understand what makes a villain great, I need to ask a question: why do we fear them? Some might say it’s because they’re cruel, or vicious; unfeeling or distant. But I would argue that, often, the most fearsome antagonists are those whom we can see ourselves in. The ones that are not so charred that they cease to be human … They can be taken seriously by their humanity … the best villains aren’t blind to emotion … the most frightening villains reflect humanity … their good qualities don’t make them weak … every villain is the hero of their own story … they’re formidable antagonists with a plan … their shared traits gives the protagonist the opportunity to see him/herself in the antagonist… they’re well suited for the story.
⎯Emily Morgan, www.thisincandescentlife.com
QUESTION Dear Drs. WhiteWolf & BlakHawk, Should people be concerned with opening themselves up to working with the spirit world? Like whether negative entities can attach to them?
Dr. WhiteWolf If you ask any medium you will receive an opinion based on their personal experience and what they believe or know. Our moral judgments of what is “right” and “wrong” affect our meaning making process, and this is no different for a medium. There are many ways to interpret a channeled message. Often, what I see on tv haunting shows is the medium picks up the correct storyline about the past life of spirits around, but presents this as still the current state of the spirit’s consciousness. This, of course, sells ratings AND PERPETUATES FEAR.
With that being said, above is just as complex as below, the only difference is they have access to way more information across time and space. This makes spirits more consciously strategic in their purpose and depending on your wishes and weaknesses, you more susceptible to the experience. From my personal experience and knowing, as an incarnate (someone who was born and living a 3d life), you are already in the matrix therefore you do not really have a choice whether you open yourself up or not for you already made that choice prior to coming here therefore if you feel the need to pursue or validate a connection, go for it. There is always continuity and interconnectivity at play between life and the afterlife, life never ends and you are never working alone in terms of the evolution of your consciousness. We are each attached to many spirits across time and space whom we’ve never met in this lifetime but have life after life purpose with.
Through my many clients above who have lived the life theme of victim/perpetrator and who have passed from tragic, violent endings, including BlakHawk whose voice is front and centre in our work, I have experienced both sides of the coin, just like my relationships here with humans. Pain and pleasure is something that exists on both sides of the veil and within both kinds of relationships.
Being friends with a ghost is the same thing as being friends with a human, both are human. The only difference is the dead human has access to you and your entire chart as well as the future whereas you, most likely, have not yet learned this skill. These power dynamics can sometimes become problematic.
Therefore, my take is people should consider their relationships with lifers and afterlifers in the same way, people can suck onto you as you on them and the same goes with ghosts. Do not be concerned with negative spirit attachments anymore than you would be with 3D humans for every human relationship always present a positive and a negative. just know that the more you invest in your relationships above and below, the greater amount of pain and pleasure you will feel with both.
Another thing to know is if you feel haunted and have a spirit attached to you, despite how hard you may resist and see mediums and exorcists to ask them to cut the cords from others, all that is attached is meant to be attached for all involved in the journey to learn from and grow with, individually and as one. The only way to release the attachment is to have learn the lessons together and make emends. Some people struggle with cancer, others divorce, some with spirit attachment, others ET abductions. Every soul comes here with challenges to learn lessons and grow from, Judith Anodea calls them “Demons” i.e. counter forces to help you evolve your consciousness.
Based on my personal experience as someone who has been consciously open to the spirit world since a child, experienced a haunting firsthand and was possessed by BlakHawk, my knowledge as a working transpersonal therapist and psychic medium combined with the ability to see details of the future every day, I can safely say, trust that whatever happens to you was already scheduled to happen for you and is for your soul’s highest good, despite the pain and confusion one experiences amidst such a horror.
If you feel drawn to develop conscious inter dimensional relationships, trust this as guidance from loved ones on the other side and don’t fear a spirit attachment but do stay conscious about what you are there to learn and grow from. Sometimes truth hurts and ignorance is bliss, sometimes ignorance hurts and truth is bliss. Through my relationships with above and below, I have learned both sides of this coin.
Spirit Dr. BlakHawk In my case, hearing voices haunted me from childhood until my last day. It wasn’t pleasant for me. I wish I met a person like Doc who could have helped me to understand and heal. She has the clinical and spiritual understanding of the intersection between mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. Now that I am on this side, I understand what happened to me and I know I would have enjoyed getting to know the spirit world.
She is right when she says that what comes your way was meant to come. Some of us are “earthbound” because this is where we call “home” just like some of you are heavenbound because where we are is where you call “home.”
Representation, which is the framing of an experience, event, idea, person, belief, and so forth, dictates perception, and perception dictates experience.
Together, we are working to change the representation of spirits and the spirit world so that we may bridge the gap between loved ones on both sides of the veil, have a more honest affect on how you perceive and experience us, help you to heal⎯even if it means experiencing a haunting⎯, and to face your transition from life to afterlife, with greater ease.
To quote our friend James Dean, “If a man can bridge the gap between life and death, if he can live on after he’s dead then maybe he was a great man.”
QUESTION Is there ever a time when you suggest that it’s not healthy for a person to be in touch with a departed loved one?
Dr. WhiteWolf Every person is accountable to row their own boat, steer their own ship, learn lessons in trust and accountability. We are each responsible for our own happiness therefore if a person is not interested, does not feel strong enough, emotionally and mentally balanced enough to process the information, or fears it may be unhealthy to pursue an inter dimensional connection or relationship be it with a particular family member or otherwise, then this is that individual’s choice. But as I stated above, if spirit contact persists you will not be able to resist. Everyone will only get what they came here to receive.
In my case, from as early as three years old, I gravitated to the invisible over the visible. Clearly, the spirit world was my path. Throughout my life, my connection with the other side brought me company, magic, love, healing, clarity and purpose despite the painful haunting and possession I underwent and still undergo. And so has my life with humans. My life experience, life after life, dictates my creative life work with abuse and trauma on both sides of the veil. Although I have tried to step out of this life theme, I am in the matrix and it always pulls me back. The only thing I can do is balance it as best as I can.
With respect to you, since we are dealing with blending consciousness with others on the other side in order to communicate, how we emotionally process the information communicated back and forth will determine the level of peace and discomfort you may experience from the relationship, just like how it is here with 3d people; sometimes you get triggered, sometimes you are at peace. Spirits are always blending their consciousness with ours because this is their telephone line and since we are each attached interdimensionally with those we are destined to ride the waves with, making your relationship with spirit conscious or not will not determine their healthy or unhealthy affect on you. All unfolds as it is meant.
Spirit Dr. BlakHawk It depends on the individual’s makeup and needs. For some, it’s the most healing and magically rewarding like with Doc despite the sadness she experiences, and for others, it’s too painful, shameful, and frightening.
For those of us deep-hearted departed ones who want to be heard by loved ones left behind, we want you to know we are here with you, helping you, that’s why we gravitate and send you to mediums. But like on your side, just because we want something, does not mean we get it. Patience and acceptance are also life lessons we learn on our side.
We address the purpose of hauntings in our blog chapter, “Calling All Superheroes, “AM I HAUNTED?” and provide understanding of a spirit attachment as something already designed by you in you soul contract in the Blog Chapter, “Carved In Tombstones: Soul Contracts, Predestination & Free Will”
Dr. WhiteWolf I am only grateful to my relationships with the above, in my world “Spirit attachment” is a good thing.
Spirit Dr. BlakHawk Cheers.